Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness

Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness (2018) is the first book by author, motivational speaker, social media influencer, and life coach Vex King. King offers practical guidance on cultivating a positive mindset, enhancing emotional well-being, and ultimately transforming one’s life. King’s book falls within the self-development genre, focusing on themes typically found in guides to mental and emotional growth, including Self-Love and Acceptance, The Power of Positive Thinking, and Energy and the Law of Attraction. 

Gaining widespread popularity in 2021 as its readership soared during the pandemic, the book has been translated into over 40 languages.

This guide uses the 2018 paperback edition.

Summary

King had a difficult childhood. His family faced financial instability and he lost his father at a young age. These struggles were the catalyst for his personal journey of transformation, leading him to self-knowledge. King encourages readers to similarly embrace their authentic selves while continuously striving to grow.

In college, King discovered Rhonda Byrne’s self-help book The Secret. According to Byrne’s Law of Attraction, thoughts and intentions manifest reality. After successfully manifesting a tax refund, King certified his belief in the Law. However, a failed group project made King realize that positive thinking alone was insufficient. True manifestation requires emotional accountability, self-awareness, and addressing inner conflicts.

King introduces the Law of Vibration. To achieve one’s goals, one must align one’s personal energy with the vibration frequently of the desired outcome. To maintain a high vibrational frequency, one must cultivate joy, love, and gratitude while minimizing negative emotions. King believes that energy is contagious; surrounding oneself with positive influences elevates emotional well-being. Likewise, body language and posture shape both self-perception and how others perceive us.

Cultivating a positive mindset requires solitude: disconnecting from social media and retreating after excessive socializing. Maintaining inspiration is essential, so uplifting books and movies can help reignite motivation during difficult times. There is a connection between nutrition and energy levels, so King promotes eating high-vibration foods, such as fresh fruits, vegetables, and nuts, while avoiding processed foods and alcohol. In addition, King emphasizes the importance of internal emotional awareness. Rather than suppressing difficult emotions, individuals should acknowledge and transform them through mindfulness and meditation.

King delves into the importance of self-reflection, as toxicity sometimes stems from one’s own attitudes and reactions. By acknowledging personal shortcomings, individuals can take accountability for their growth. 

Relationships play a crucial role in personal well-being. Letting go of toxic relationships can preserve one’s energy; helping loved ones can be meaningful, but constantly absorbing their negativity is draining. He advises setting emotional boundaries to prevent burnout while still offering support. Constantly seeking approval can lead to burnout, so prioritizing one’s own peace over external validation is important. Judgment is inevitable, but embodying positivity naturally repels negativity, so the Law of Vibration ensures that like-minded individuals are drawn to one another. 

King encourages readers to reject societal standards and embrace their uniqueness. Rather than striving to fit into predefined norms, whether in career choices, relationships, or personal appearance, he advocates for self-care, confidence, and focusing on personal growth. By valuing inner beauty, character, and personal achievements, individuals can cultivate a deeper sense of fulfillment that extends beyond external validation.

King believes that a high-vibration mindset attracts positive outcomes, while limiting beliefs create barriers. Since many beliefs are conditioned by society, reassessing them is essential. To unlock one’s full potential, King advocates reprogramming the subconscious through awareness and intentional thinking. One positive thought can create a ripple effect, leading to meaningful change. King also highlights the power of setting clear intentions, as the universe supports those who align their energy with their aspirations.

King stresses that none of these principles hold value without action. Positive thinking must be paired with effort to create real change. While many seek shortcuts, true progress requires persistence and consistency. Procrastination, impatience, and short-term gratification often hinder long-term goals. King concludes with reflections on pain, purpose, and personal growth, emphasizing that challenges shape individuals and that life lessons will continue to repeat until they are fully understood. True happiness, he argues, comes from within, not from material success. King leaves readers with a motivational message of perseverance, faith, and empowerment, reminding them that while the journey may be difficult, it is rewarding.